Papoosh etc - Marriage, Motherhood, Mayhem and Musings!

  Read it on Medium here   My husband and I have been married for more than a decade now and have been partners for almost double that. Today, we have a fairly solid marriage; meaning there are days we absolutely cannot stand each other but still manage to work like a well-oiled machine. And there are most of the other days where we know without a doubt that there is no one else we would rather spend our lives with. This well-oiled machine did not spring up overnight though. The drafts were made much before we even got married. Because much before we actually got married, we broke up. Much like a phoenix, we rose from the ashes. We crashed and burnt. But, we also rebuilt something from those ashes. We rebuilt a stronger relationship and ultimately our marriage.   The history When the man and I met, we were young, starry eyed and hopelessly in love. We moved quickly. Within a few months, we moved into a house and less than a year in, we moved cities so he could be closer t...

 My husband and I have seen 14 years together... Half of them married and more than four of them as parents. Each year, the reasons he gives me to love him only increase. So this year, on our 14th Valentine's day in this long journey of hopefully many many more  to come, I decided to count my blessings. In the humdrum of everyday, this definitely brought back many many smiles. Dearest husband, 1) I love how you try so hard to not laugh at my sad jokes but see you stifle that sneaky grin anyway 2) I love that I'm always someone to pamper as far as you're concerned... How you say.. "If not for my wife then who" 3) I love how when I'm at my most insecure as a mom, you will sit me down and let me know why I don't need to be worried 4) I love how you place your faith in me when it comes to the well being of your father and trust my intentions always. Thank you 5) I love your passion for things that make you go, read up, know everything on it possible and ...

  You know how Mr. Murphy shows you your place in the world ? Typically when you're standing in queues or stuck in traffic on days you JUST HAVE TO GET IT ALL DONE? I have come to the saddening realisation that Mr Murphy absolutely loves showering his attention on mommies. Ok. Maybe not all, but definitely me.When I got pregnant, while I was thrilled, I used to laugh off all my friends' valid concerns. Like how would I party late? Or how would I manage to keep up with my large social circle of all of 6 people. I had my plan down pat. Of course, it all started with me having a daughter. A daughter that would have her father wrapped around her little finger and who would prefer daddy darling over me any day.Come delivery, and my doctor hands me a fiesty, beautiful, absolutely adorable baby BOY! That's right a boy who has been mama's little shadow from day one. A boy who not only needed his mama over everyone else, he also ensured daddy wasn't too happy since he refuse...

 September 6th 2012 . A day that turned our lives around forever. As with everything else in my life, my son's birth wasn't without it's own share of drama. That's another story for another time though. My first memory of those mothering instincts taking over was when I burst into angry sobs when I woke up a few hours after my c-section. There were a whole bunch of random people (also known as huband, father-in-law, mother and the like) who were crowded around MY baby. Oh I was angry all right. I did what any rational woman would. I cried. Loudly. I wailed about how I hadn't even had a chance to hold my baby yet and everyone had already started smelling and taking away his new baby smell. It ensured everyone was very careful about holding the baby from then on, more to appease the mom than anything else! That burst of possessiveness was something I was totally unprepared for. That is when I realised how one sided the resources you read while preparing for motherho...