Quitter..Not me!!!
Which is the greater evil? To love and not be loved in return...or to be loved back, but not be allowed to love?
Having been on both sides, I can speak for myself..and it is a far far far more painful experience to love a person who is immensely in love with you, but just does not allow you to love them back than to be a person who's love is unrequited.
It is possible to move on from a place where nothing even begun...you love someone, they don't love you back..you reel under the knowledge that what you thought you could share with them will never be, learn to accept it and move on. Sooner or later, someone else will come along who will let you forget..and help you cover the half baked foundation and build a new set of dreams...you learn to live, and eventually you find contentment as well.
When you are not allowed to love in return though, it is a much tougher struggle..two people reach out...realise that the connection between them runs so deep that it cannot be ignored..and find a happiness in each other that neither had ever imagined because it is that unreal..that euphoric...
You realise you have the same dreams, decide noone else would do..and without your even realising it, not only the foundation, but also a half built home has been built..a home that is your refuge from the world outside..and then poof..one fine day..it all changes..
You're still in love...but you're not allowed to show it..every action that stems from the love you feel is shot down...and when you reach out..your partner pushes you away..not because they don't love you, not because the haven that once was is no more..but just because...
How do you reach out to the one you love the most, when the very act of reaching out pushes them further away, how do you keep aloof, knowing that every moment you stay detached, it breaks a small thread in the rope that binds you together.
It is easy to break away from a person you never built a bond with...the baggage, the effort is yours and yours alone. It is easy to shut a person out when you never really shared anything anyway.
But when you're still walking towards the proverbial "happily ever after", when you're still building that refuge for the two of you, its hard to keep the faith and walk on.It is so difficult to love without showing it, so difficult to continue loving a person who does not allow you to express it. It is so hard to believe that things will get better but it is doubly hard to even think of quitting and going the stretch alone..to start from scratch..for now the baggage, the effort is not just yours, you end up with enough for 2.
Having been on both sides, I can speak for myself..and it is a far far far more painful experience to love a person who is immensely in love with you, but just does not allow you to love them back than to be a person who's love is unrequited.
It is possible to move on from a place where nothing even begun...you love someone, they don't love you back..you reel under the knowledge that what you thought you could share with them will never be, learn to accept it and move on. Sooner or later, someone else will come along who will let you forget..and help you cover the half baked foundation and build a new set of dreams...you learn to live, and eventually you find contentment as well.
When you are not allowed to love in return though, it is a much tougher struggle..two people reach out...realise that the connection between them runs so deep that it cannot be ignored..and find a happiness in each other that neither had ever imagined because it is that unreal..that euphoric...
You realise you have the same dreams, decide noone else would do..and without your even realising it, not only the foundation, but also a half built home has been built..a home that is your refuge from the world outside..and then poof..one fine day..it all changes..
You're still in love...but you're not allowed to show it..every action that stems from the love you feel is shot down...and when you reach out..your partner pushes you away..not because they don't love you, not because the haven that once was is no more..but just because...
How do you reach out to the one you love the most, when the very act of reaching out pushes them further away, how do you keep aloof, knowing that every moment you stay detached, it breaks a small thread in the rope that binds you together.
It is easy to break away from a person you never built a bond with...the baggage, the effort is yours and yours alone. It is easy to shut a person out when you never really shared anything anyway.
But when you're still walking towards the proverbial "happily ever after", when you're still building that refuge for the two of you, its hard to keep the faith and walk on.It is so difficult to love without showing it, so difficult to continue loving a person who does not allow you to express it. It is so hard to believe that things will get better but it is doubly hard to even think of quitting and going the stretch alone..to start from scratch..for now the baggage, the effort is not just yours, you end up with enough for 2.
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